Do you feel that we all have a destiny? A pre-written course in life? Or, do we choose our destinies every day through actions and choices *we* make? Whichever you believe, I think it adds up to the same thing, which is “Do the best you can with what you’ve got”. Let’s explore.
My biological father is a writer, and I did not know this until much later in life. My adoptive parents are most definitely not writers. By age three I was spelling out words and by four I was reading books. I knew I was a writer. Somehow, I just knew it. And yet, nobody in my family even read a whole lot, much less wrote fiction. Of course, genes play a large part in that, I’m betting, but is there something else? Some destiny I am to fulfill? Am I doing what I was intended to do, or do I just have a strong draw to reading and writing and so have decided to make them for my life? It’s anyone’s guess, really.
I don’t ever, ever talk about politics or religion because of several reasons, but mainly because folks have a hard time keeping civil in conversations about them. After ten minutes, a friendly debate about opinions becomes a screaming flame war. That isn’t for me. However, I believe that discussing a pre-written destiny, or the lack thereof, isn’t about religion at all. Either you think that life has been planned out for you, or you don’t. Whatever vehicle leads you to that conclusion isn’t part of this particular debate.
If I am in the mood for steak, but purposely choose eggs instead in order to “trick fate”, have I really tricked fate or was I supposed to eat eggs all along? Sure, that point is rather moot in the grand scheme of things, but each decision in our lives can go just like that. What if I major in psychology for a year and a half before deciding that I really like sociology instead? Although they are closely related fields, it changes our path in a big way. Classes are different, jobs are different, pay scales are different, and the people we will meet will all change. So, did that hinge on a decision or are we just going about or pre-programmed ways? It’s a tough call for me. Real tough.
I tend to think that while we may have a destiny, life is more like one of those ‘choose your own adventure’ books in which you can pick a direction, but they are rather limited if you want the story to be good. It’s kind of like a game of chess: Sure, at any one point in the game you may in fact have twenty moves to choose from, but only two or three are worth considering because the others are obviously bad and lose quickly.
So, what’s *your* next move?