So, this is an interesting site: http://divorcerate2011.com/divorce-statistics/
Here are some stats from it:
Divorce statistics in the United States
· Almost 49 percent of the marriages end up in divorces
· First marriages end up in divorces in an average duration of just less than 8 years
· 60 percent of all divorces are related to individuals aged 25 to 39
· There were more than 21 million divorces in the year 2000. In the same year, 58 million couples were married and still lived separated
· The average male age for a second divorce was 40.4 years and the average female age was 37.3 years in 1990
· The divorce rate of first time marriages is almost 10 percent lesser than the divorce rate for second marriages
· Over a 40 year period, 67 percent of first marriages terminate in a divorce and 50 percent of these divorces take place within the first 7 years
· Every year more than 1 million children are affected by divorce
Divorce statistics regarding the risk of divorce
· In case of individuals who have attended college, the risk of divorce is less by 13 percent
· If a person has strong religious beliefs, the risk of divorce is 14 percent less
· When the parents are happily married, the risk of divorce of their children decreases by 14 percent
· Those who marry for the first time after they attain the age of 25, in their case the risk of divorce is less by 24 percent
· If the yearly income is more than 0.5 million USD, the risk of divorce decreases by 30 percent
Effects of divorce on children
· The possibility that teenaged girls from single parent homes would give birth to an out-of-wedlock child or would drop out of high school is two times as compared to girls living with both parents
· The children who are brought up in single parent homes display a lesser possibility to marry and more possibility to divorce
· 50 percent of the children in the country are a witness to the breakup of their parent’s marriage. Almost half of these 50 percent are a witness to the second divorce of a parent
· From 1970 to 1996, the number of children residing with both parents plummeted from 85 to 68 percent
I have always been pretty much against marriage, and for the very reasons listed above – marriage just doesn’t work most of the time.
The divorce rate doesn’t surprise me one bit. What surprises me is that every day, millions of people still get married. Why in the world do they think they’ll be the exceptions? Why in the world would anyone in their right mind have to “prove” they are together and love each other by getting the government involved? Why in the world risk going through a very messy divorce when you have the option of just breaking up if things go wrong down the line?
Yes, of course I realize that many marriages last and last, and maybe some of those marriages are even happy ones at the end. But it makes me question the idea that humans are monogamous creatures. I highly doubt that in the caveman days there was a such thing as “cheating” on your mate. If you wanted someone, you took that someone, if they’d let you. I think it’s in our nature. The amount of girlfriends, boyfriends, and spouses who get cheated on is astronomical, and those are only the ones who get caught or confess. Just think how much infidelity goes on successfully! *cringe*
So why do so many people, then, insist on going against the grain? What cracks me up most about marriages are the religious people: gays are an abomination with no rights under God, and yet heterosexuals are allowed to make a promise to the same God, but break it whenever they decide they don’t like their situations or their partners. However, religious hypocrisy is a whole other blog post, and probably several. I’m here to talk about human decision-making, and the fact that I believe marriage to be an antiquated idea.
Another thing that amazes me is the *cost* of these weddings. It isn’t uncommon for a common, everyday couple to spend ten or twenty-thousand dollars on a single day. So, these couples not only enter the pressure of new laws governing them, new promises to God, and a new life, but they do so in debt. This makes zero sense to me. I mean none.
By the time these young couples have paid the wedding off, they are getting a divorce and now have to pay exorbitant lawyer fees as well as lose half their stuff for states that recognize Community Property, such as Califailia. Sounds to me like it’d be much easier just to date and put the twenty-large toward a house, or a college fund for kids that arise from the union. Again, that’s just me.
You couldn’t pay me to get married in this state. Even though my girlfriend and I have been together for almost a decade, how do I know what I’ll want when I’m fifty? How does she know what she’ll want? Making life-long promises at an early age in life isn’t a wildly smart thing to do, in my opinion.
If you like marriage, why?
If you dislike marriage, why?
I would love to hear your comments.